You know, everybody finds flattery in being wanted by somebody. However, for me this takes a whole other turn when someone will refer to me as “Winter Stock”. 

As I stated in my previous posts about Chubby Girls and Body Shaming, I’m a chunky shorty. Call myself “Chubbz” sometimes. I take pride in my apprearance cause I got the curves.  Thats the way I am. However it saddens me when men try to make me feel like theres something wrong with looking the way I do.

Labelling someone as “Winter Stock” is a form of body shaming. How dare you say that I’m only good for the winter season ?! Do you even know me? Do I look like a blanket? During hot seasons, skinny and petite girls are the preference?

Men make women feel inferior by giving them these tags. To them its harmless or even in some twisted way, a compliment, but when you read into what theyre actually saying is certain women are only good for certain periods of the year. So a chubby girl isnt good for Summer, why? You want a woman but you cant even respect her enough to look past her body? Are we just bodies to be utilised for physical conquests and pleasure only? No! We are people with feelings and intellect!
For some odd reason men feel like they’re doing you a favour by wanting you for Winter. You were not born to be anyone’s blanket. Funny thing about me is that I have a naturally cold body. Throughout the year my hands, legs, feet, nose and lips are always cold. So im not the “winter stock” you want honey. Im a cold bitch. Literally

So ladies, dont let these guys lower your self esteem and make you feel some type of way because of your body. Do not let people’s opinions dictate your life like that. If they want to call you a seasonal stock, let them be. Maybe they’re not good enough for you anyway.

You are every season, every month, every week and everyday stock! You are radiant mama. Flaunt those curves 12months non-stop! 



Women are given looks of disapproval and  disgust from men and even other women sometimes when they see you living worry-free with your stretch marks. I was listening to Kendrick Lamar’s Humble. There’s a part in that song that says “show me something natural like ass with some stretch marks”. I was like yeeeeees Dzadzy😂!!!

In 2017, shockingly, there are still people who frown apon having stretch marks like you took time out of your life, sat down and stretched your own skin. They’ll make you feel unattractive and a sort of freak because of them. Little do they know that every contour line on that body is symbolic of your physical growth.

Honestly, I feel like men and some women should stop being childish. Stretch marks are very natural. Its not self inflicted so who are you to bring a woman down and make her feel less worthy because of her stretch marks?! Your staring and rude remarks reflect your level of immaturity. It speaks volumes about the kind of person you are. The question is- would you look at your mother with disgust if you saw the stretch marks she endured from carrying you? I think NOT! Take some time and process that!

I find this attitude especially disgusting when women who have given birth are ridiculed by the baby’s father. I can only imagine the feeling of a life growing inside of you and your body stretching to accommodate that baby. Oh my word, the power that females have is amazing😍. Then some idiot will feel the need to bring you down as though you made the baby by yourself. WOW! The funny thing in the case of women will be that they’ll look at a person with stretch marks and be disgusted but the person’s face ALONE beats the hater’s body and entire existence. Shame.

Some stretch marks are brought on by weight gain – in my case. I used to have baby skin clear of imperfections till i started growing up. Even then, I did not ask God to give me stretch marks so being teased about it is really stupid.

I live WITH my stretch marks because I’ve accepted that they’re not going anywhere. After so much money wasted on products trying to remove them, they just became lighter. Me having stretch marks does not affect my IQ in any way, nor does it make me less attractive or less worthy of love, respect, dignity and kindness. If anything, it has made me confident and I walk proudly. I dont try to hide them because they are a part of who I am. I am beautiful WITH my stretch marks honey!

Men and women who still hate on stretch marks need to be fed a steady diet of purity, nestum and breast milk cause they have a lot of growing up to do.

Go forth and be fabulous, you sexy tiger!!!😍
Oh and a special shout out to the men who love their women and their stretch marks. We are your sexy zebras baby!!

5 Reasons Why Xhosa Girls Are Good Girlfriends


Ndingu MaRhadebe



Ndlebe ntle zombini

I am a Xhosa girl. I click my tongue and say words like “sana” and “kaloku”. I pride myself in all this. Today is all about my Xhosa girls! Here are the top 5 reasons, in my opinion…why you should date a Xhosa girl.


I speak for the many I’ve seen but hai sibahle sana!! We’re beautiful. There’s no doubt about it. There’s no Xhosa Butter bethuna. Yikrwatyityi (that orange sack) that we used to wash our bodies growing up. 😂😂 Jonga ngoku senza ama YESESS🔥

2. Domesticated👰

We’re pretty domesticated. We can cook, clean and make your room eback seem like a warm home.😂You’ll even forget everything is in 1 room.

3. Financial Management:💰💳

😂 Apparently Xhosa girls love money. I wouldnt know cause I like my money more than anyone else’s. They’re partly mistaken. Xhosa girls are just good with finances…the spending part. But don’t worry, we’ll help you spend it on the right things.

4. That clicking tongue👅

Pronouncing the “Q” and the “X” really strengthens your tongue and mouth. Thats all I’m going say. Make your own deductions😈

5 SiGreat! Senza umrifithi!!💯

Haters are gonna hate. Potatoes are gonna potate. But who came up with “ziRight igirls”?? “Mntase”? “Gqwirhy”? “uLife utricky chomie”? A Xhosa person! Sina “that thing” in tons marn. Undeniable. 😂 More than anything, what makes us so great is how fiesty we are. Siyaqhuma mntase.🔥

Anyway, dont let social media fool you. Xhosa women make great girlfriends❤