I Fear Being a Mom

This is one of the few times that I’m going to come out fully and be open, vulnerable and honest. Firstly, I’m not pregnant. So calm down. Heck, I’m still sorta-kinda celibate. Everyone gets to a certain age where they feel like if they would fall pregnant, they’d happily bring that little life into the…

Stop Feeling Sorry For Yourself

This post was spurred on by a Facebook status I saw. This guy was complaining that people with iPhones always think they’re better than other people and never put the phones in their pockets. I laughed at this because not only was it utter BS, I could just see the bitterness just seething out of…

Black Child, Depression is Real.

“It’s just a stage. It’ll pass!” “You like attention” “Stop pretending” “There’s no such thing as depression” Now imagine all these things being said in your mother tongue by your parents or members of your family. Sound familiar? Hits home, doesn’t it? In the black community, there is no such thing as depression- according to…

15 Lies Men Tell

Men Lie! Good God do men lie! I previously gave you a list of the Top 10 Lies Women Tell(Scroll down to read) and since I regard myself as an objective writer, let me give you the 15 out of many lies men tell. Since I clearly am not a man, I enlisted some assistance…

Forgive Yourself

There are many things that hold us back as humanity. Like YouTube videos not playing when you lock your phone. 15% VAT. Guys with tiny dick prints. Data prices. People who don’t understand that having earphones on means you don’t want to talk. I’m already exhausted just thinking about the above-mentioned.🤦🏾‍♀️ The one thing we…

Don’t Be Fooled! He’s Just Feeling Cold.

It’s mid-April. Autumn. But we all know, (read in a Jon Snow or Ned Stark voice) WINTER IS COMING!!! aka, CUFFING SEASON. I am not going to sit here and explain to you what happens in winter because we all know it gets freaken cold. So cold that people start playing games. Baby girl, stay…

Celibacy…How It’s Treating Me So Far.

Ha! Shocked, aren’t you? A whole me! Celibate. I chose to be celibate after I had enjoyed some fire coitus with a guy who left me swollen and screaming everytime I needed to urinate. Nothing strange. So I started thinking, I know I’m not going to end up with this guy because he’s a complete…

Become YOLANDA

Well, you’ve been reading my posts. I’m sure by now you’ve either developed a halo or a horn effect when it comes to me. Either because you think I’m good and that everything else about me is good or that because i’m not shy to speak my mind, that I’m rude or disrespectful or something….

Why Women Cheat on Good Men

First let me say: I, Yolanda Yonela Mqoqi hereby do not hold myself responsible for any possible chest pains, newfound PMS or being iffy which maybe be caused by this post. The reasons these females gave me made me laugh but still left me feeling sad for men at the same time. If men ever…

Graduation Frustration

Let’s first get this out of the way so you can continue reading in peace. This is not a post about ridiculing you or making you feel small and unworthy, no child! I don’t do that! Its quiet opposite. Keep reading! Gaudeamus Igitur… Thats the song most people relish to hear when they start pursuing…

Why Men Cheat on Good Women.

Maybe this has been done to death but its never done till I say something about it. A good woman. A girl that’s going to love you through think and thin. Be with you when you’re down and broke and still be with you when you’re high and monied. I’m talking about the kind of…