If You Don’t Have Good Intentions, Please Just Leave Me Alone

This issue is one that tugs at my heart. I’ve watched and experienced this so many times. People with dirty intentions coming into your life just to cause you pain. It starts when these guys try to hullur at you. Busy calling you all types of sweet things just to get your attention. Trying to…

The Silence Factor

According to Statistics South Africa, 1 in 5 women over the age of 18 has experienced physical abuse at the hands of their partner. This is a sad reality that South African women are subjected to every single day. I know someone reading this post has suffered from such. What is more alarming is that…

The Man’s Female “Best Friend”

I have been through this so many times. The boyfriend’s female best friend. The one who’s always hanging around with him and being all buddy-buddy. The girl with whom he shares a “platonic” relationship👀. Yes. That girl. I’m talking from a girlfriend’s perspective today because I’m certain that there’s a girl out there who’s questioning…

Don’t Be Fooled! He’s Just Feeling Cold.

It’s mid-April. Autumn. But we all know, (read in a Jon Snow or Ned Stark voice) WINTER IS COMING!!! aka, CUFFING SEASON. I am not going to sit here and explain to you what happens in winter because we all know it gets freaken cold. So cold that people start playing games. Baby girl, stay…

Why Women Cheat on Good Men

First let me say: I, Yolanda Yonela Mqoqi hereby do not hold myself responsible for any possible chest pains, newfound PMS or being iffy which maybe be caused by this post. The reasons these females gave me made me laugh but still left me feeling sad for men at the same time. If men ever…

How Dare You!

How dare you even attempt to make me feel like I am not worthy because I dont fit into your definition of ‘beautiful’ ? Why would I want to look like everyone else? Fit in with the crowd. Me? Never that! How dare you swear at me when I don’t respond to your hoots, whistles,…

Why Men Cheat on Good Women.

Maybe this has been done to death but its never done till I say something about it. A good woman. A girl that’s going to love you through think and thin. Be with you when you’re down and broke and still be with you when you’re high and monied. I’m talking about the kind of…

Bafazini Syndrome* 

​The term “Bafazini” is used to describe a man who feels the need to dabble or weighin on women issues. Gossipping, hair, nails, complexion…the works. There’s a difference between being interested and this thing men do. Men will get to a point where they’re arguing with you about something you know better about. How is…